Life-Span Adjustment of Children to Their Parents’ Divorce

By Paul R. Amato

He has a great PDF! go read it if you have time https://www.princeton.edu/futureofchildren/publications/docs/04_01_08.pdf

Children who experience parental divorce, compared with children in continuously intact two-parent families, exhibit more conduct problems, more symptoms of psychological maladjustment, lower academic achievement, more social difficulties, and poorer self-concepts. Similarly, adults who experienced parental divorce as children, compared with adults raised in continuously intact two-parent families, score lower on a variety of indicators of psychological, interpersonal, and socioeconomic well-being. However, the overall group differences between offspring from divorced and intact families are small, with considerable diversity existing in children’s reactions to divorce. Children’s adjustment to divorce depends on several factors, including the amount and quality of contact with noncustodial parents, the custodial parents’ psychological adjustment and parenting skills, the level of interparental conflict that precedes and follows divorce, the degree of economic hardship to which children are exposed, and the number of stressful life events that accompany and follow divorce. These factors can be used as guides to assess the probable impact of various legal and therapeutic interventions to improve the well-being of children of divorce.

Divorce

Divorce rates 40%-50% of couples will get divorced in America.

Divorce rates have tended to go up throughout the world. Women are no longer satisfied with being  glorified housemaids and cooks. Divorce causes many problems mostly causes emotional problems to the Man, Women and Child Go check this website exampling the effects of each person in the family.

http://www.mediate.com/articles/psych.cfm

Communication & Mutual Problem Solving

Styles of conflict 

1. Competition                                     Our GOAL is to be flexible and willing to compromise.

2. Avoidance                                        .Be sensitive to time.

3.Accommodations                             .Use conflict to attack the problem not your spouse.

4.Compromise                                     .Keep loving while you are fighting.

5. Collaboration                                   . Be quick to say you are sorry.

Strength in Counsel

https://www.lds.org/general-conference/1993/10/strength-in-counsel?lang=eng

Family Stress

Family Crisis
Family Crises Defined – Hill’s ABC->X Theory

Family stress comes in many forms.
There are normal stressors, such as getting married, adjusting to living in a new group, having babies, unemployment, and so on, which are experienced by most families from time to time. There are also abnormal stressors, such as famine, war, natural disasters, massive economic collapse, murder, assault, incest, and so on, which tend to occur in selected families, sometimes happening at random, sometimes happening to families with special weaknesses.

In any case, the individual can be prepared for these events by agents from all parts of our society, the most informative agent of which can be one’s own family. The effects of family crises of various kinds comes down to the recognition and management of stressful events in our lives.

A= Actual Event

B=Both resources + Application

C= Cognition, Crisis


Total  X= experience

http://www3.uakron.edu/witt/fc/fcnote7.htm

Social Class & Cultural Diversity

Each of our family experiences is influenced in some way by the social groups to which we belong. Some of these social groups involved social class or privilege. Others involve the unique cultures to which we belong. Each influences the family in various ways, most often unseen.The family, on the other hand, also influences the greater society or the groups to which we belong. Due to the sheer mass of social groups, however, it is easier to be influenced than it is to influence. An understanding of these influences allows us greater awareness of our challenges as well as our opportunities and the choices which lie before us. -Marriage & Family Eight Edition